Friday, February 13, 2015

5 Things I Learned About Having A Cesarean Section

I'm finally back from a 3-month hiatus!


Baby A just turned 3 months old and I finally could sneak some time to blog again. I might not be able to finish this post in one sitting, but I have to admit that I really missed blogging. So it just feels good to be back! I'm loaded with so many blog ideas that I had a hard time choosing where to begin. I thought it's apt to start by sharing my experience in giving birth to our second baby.

Moms know that nothing prepares you for childbirth, may it be your first, second, third or even tenth. As they say, a woman giving birth has one foot on the grave. Childbirth is painful, scary and even traumatic for some. But no matter how difficult the experience is, seeing the baby you carried for 9 months for the first time makes you forget all that pain.

I am blessed that for my second cesarean section, recovery was much easier and faster. Nevertheless, adjusting to my new life took some time. One of my biggest challenges was how to manage my time between my newborn and toddler (we also took a break from homeschooling) while attending to the usual household concerns. Both of them craved for my attention and I was distraught and restless for the first few weeks.

But despite having a smooth C-section and quick recovery, the days that followed my delivery were not without drama. Our baby girl had to be admitted to the NICU when she was 2 weeks old to rule out sepsis. Not to mention my struggle with breastfeeding and her poor weight gain. Oh well, I'd probably take that up in a one of my future posts. For now, let me share with you my thoughts about giving birth via a C-section the second time around.

1. Don't fret about not having a normal delivery 

When I gave birth for the first time, I totally discounted the possibility of having a cesarean section. Not only were we not ready with the things we needed for a longer stay at the hospital, we also did not anticipate paying a heftier hospital bill. 

With all the hype in natural birth, I had feelings of regret as well as a sense of guilt that maybe, I didn't try enough. So when I became pregnant again, I discussed the possibility of going into normal delivery with my OB-GYN.  She told me that given my previous experience, there is that risk that I might have an emergency CS again. The thought of going through that financial burden again made us decide to have a planned CS. It is still more expensive than a normal delivery, but at least we know how much money (more or less),  we would have to shell out.

Yes, I did not go into labor. Yes, I had to get anesthesia. Yes I had to take pain relievers and antibiotics. But push or no push,  it does not make me less of a mother. I still had to endure pain, just like any mom who bore and delivered a child. 

This time, I did not have any regrets. Whether CS or normal, I learned that comparing myself with other moms is pointless. What matters is that me and baby are well and healthy. 

2. It's ok to ask for help  

As moms, we tend to take control of almost everything. But after a major operation such as this, I didn't have any choice but to rely on others for help. Because I don't have immediate relatives here in the Philippines, my husband became my major source of help. It was during this time that I had proven how much my husband really loves me. Since I couldn't move much (not even lift my baby from the bassinet), Randy did everything-- as in everything! 

I also sought help from my cousins and sisters-in-law. They ran errands for us, took care of our eldest child while we were in the hospital and even cooked for us when we got back home. 

3.  My baby is my priority 

Never mind if the house is a mess. Never mind if we sometimes had to order-in fastfood for dinner. Never mind if my hair was unkept and I only had 5 minutes to shower. Never mind if I had to pass up Christmas reunions and parties. Everything else can wait. Even my husband understood this and he never demanded that I go back to my usual routine during the first weeks.  I learned to cherish this time that our baby is solely dependent on me. I know that it will pass fast enough and I will miss it when it's over.

4. Respect my body and allow it to heal 

It still amazes me how Hollywood celebrities and Victoria's Secret models manage to go back to their pre-pregnancy sexy figures just weeks after giving birth. As for me, I don't obsess in losing weight immediately. My CS scar and my stretchmarks are trademarks of my motherhood.  The extra pounds, I can deal with when it's time.  What's important is to allow my body to heal internally even if I seem ok at the onset. Even if I am able to move like usual, a C-section is a major operation and it will take time for my body to fully recover.

5.  To embrace my life as a mother

When my I gave birth to my eldest, I was overwhelmed with the big change and the big responsibility that I had to take on all of a sudden. Tearfully, I asked my mom, "When will my life get back to normal?" Her response was an awakening. "This is your new normal. Deal with it."  I may have given up a lot of things, but the gains far outweigh the trade-off. I could never imagine how my life would be like without my babies. And for this, I'm truly grateful to God. Being a mom is a privilege that God has given me. It doesn't really matter how they came out, whether CS or normal. What's truly important is how I raise them from here on...















  


14 comments:

  1. Hello Little One!! Happy 3 months! :)
    For me, to each his own. I've had CS done with my 2 kids and I've received a LOT of flak for it. Why not normal daw? I really hated it - na parang instead of supporting me, why give me $&@( pa! Support me instead diba? I totally agree, it doesn't matter whether normal or CS - whats important is how you raise your child.

    have a great weekend!

    love, didi

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  2. Hello baby. :) Be a good child. ♥

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  3. Love this! Gave birth to my 2 kids via CS and honestly, I do not feel guilty and nobody should! Baby's health comes first!

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  4. Awwww...your baby is too adorable! Mommy, yes, it's your new normal...for now. Baby will grow up, too, and you'll find time to do stuff again. :) Hang in there.

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  5. Congratulations mommy! Hello and welcome baby!!!! ♥

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  6. Congratulations mommy tina! precious one is so adorable!

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  7. congrats on 3 months! there are so many good points in this post: respect your body, dont compare with others, etc, well written! :)

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  8. I gave birth via CS too, twice. My boys were too comfty inside my womb they will not go out. The CS healing process takes longer, but holding my babies close seem to have made the recuperation faster 😊!

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  9. Your baby is so cute! I'm glad to know you had a smooth childbirth. I'm due in June and I'm also CS..so I'm preparing for it.

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  10. Congratulations on being a newborn mom once again! I couldn't agree with the list more, especially number 1. I was set on having a normal delivery, but after being in labor for 4 days, my doctor finally told me I needed to undergo emergency CS. We never regretted that decision, not even once, because that decision saved our son's life.

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  11. Congratulations! I like this: "But push or no push, it doesn't make me less of a mother." I agree with you. The hype in natural/normal birth these days can be so disheartening at times... I gave birth via C-section too but that was not our original plan. My baby wouldn't descend; caused me to be in dry labor for 19 hours. Waiting for her to "come out naturally" would be detrimental to both of us... I believe it's still a beautiful birth, no matter what way our children came out. Thank you for sharing. :)

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  12. I gave birth to my one and only son via CS, too, and it's one of the most, if not the most, remarkable and miraculous things that happened to me. While it's not easy being a first-time mom, it sure made me more responsible, more selfless and more loving. Embrace and enjoy motherhood, sis.

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  13. CS or Normal Delivery, a mother's love will always be the same.

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  14. I both experienced both undergoing CS and normal delivery and neither procedures makes you less of a mother.

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